Family relationships and bonds are so important. They are also key ingredients of how family relationships are established. On yesterday was another ingredient of how children learn from their parents and family members. November 4, 2008 was a primary election day for the United States of America. It has also been a family tradition in my family for us to come together and discuss the election. Therefore, yesterday was different for me. With my father as the missing piece in the picture we did things different. We still made sure each other voted and talked about the election, but the family dinner before the election was different.
The values established within a family are important. As people grieve we learn how to appreciate the things that we once had and move forward with our lives. As this historic election was sentimental to many of us. Certain values once established within a family dynamics will never fade away. As an adult child of divorce it is the values and traditions that make it hard to move forward.
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You could look at it this way - your values and traditions are actually helping you move forward. Even though your father was not part of the family tradition this time, he instilled the tradition in you and that will never change. One part of the life course perspective stuck out for me - it says that as we age, the painful experiences become less painful. We seem to get better at achieving a sense of balance in our lives. That's a very valuable lesson!
Family relations are so important in forming who we are today. This election was a very historical moment and something that each family can share their feelings and concerns within their family or with their children. Even within a family when your mother and father live together for years and the fathr ends op leaving it feels as if it was a divorce. I feel that those same children deal with the same issues of having someone leave that you are use to being there. There is no greater bond than the bond you have with your family.
I come from a one parent household but take notice to what a two-household offers. You appear to have shared some sacred and time honored memories over the years that your whole family was in tack. I since it through your various writings that the residual effects of yesterday interferes with your tomorrows. Has this dramatic change in your life impacted others as it has done you? To see what a traditional family looks like was a thing of beauty and it too was watched by millions of people around the world. However, the holiday season is vastly approaching and how does this change the direction of the compass that has led your family for years on end?
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